CASE STUDY (A-F)

CASE STUDY

A.   A.  PERSONAL DATA SUMMARY                            

CHILD:

     FIRST NAME: Erjhon

     MIDDLE NAME: Agoy

     LAST NAME: Gaspay

     BIRTH DATE: November 18, 2006

     BIRTH PLACE: Bondoc Lying-In (Caloocan City)

     ADDRESS: 1563 Masaya St. Pangarap Village, Caloocan City

     EDUCATIONAL ATTAINMENT:  None

FATHER:

     NAME: Erwin D. Gaspay

     BIRTH DATE: April 10, 1967

     BIRTH PLACE: Samar

     NATIONALITY: Filpino

     OCCUPATION: Self-employed

     RELIGION: Catholic

     ADDRESS: 1563 Masaya St. Pangarap Village, Caloocan City

     EDUCATIONAL ATTAINMENT: Bachelor of Science and Technology

MOTHER:

     NAME: Maritess A. Gaspay

     BIRTH DATE: October 13, 1965

     BIRTH PLACE: Samar

     NATIONALITY: Filipino

     OCCUPATION: Housewife

     RELIGION: Jehovah’s Witnesses

     ADDRESS: 1563 Masaya St. Pangarap Village, Caloocan City

     EDUCATIONAL ATTAINMENT:  Bachelor of Junior Secretarial

B.  B.    JOINING PROCESS

(Therapeutic Relationship)

     This case study will determine the problems in the child I observed and interview. This is also determining the strongest and weakest of the child in three domains, the knowledge, the attitude and the skills. This case study will help to the family to determine the needs in their child problem and through this case study there is a suggestion for Family therapy for them.

     This is referred by my mother, because according to my mother that this family will help me to my case study and easy to conduct an interview between them because Gaspay Family is our neighborhood and friend.  Then, when I asked the parent if it is okay for them to have a family therapy in their child, they are agreed. Because according to them, they noticed that there is a problem to their child named Erjhon.

C. C.     PRESENTING PROBLEM

     According to the parent of Erjhon, he is so naughty and low temper. As explain by the parents that they understood what erjhon was shown because, Erjhon was a child. Erjhon’s sisters and his brothers told me that Erjhon was so aggressive. Because sometimes, Erjhon kicking and punching his sister and brother. Because of that, His sisters and brothers became angry with him. Rea said that Erjhon was sometimes bullying his sisters. Then, his eldest sister named Tessa said that Erjhon always disturb her when doing her assignments and project in school. And his other sisters agreed what their eldest sister had said. His brother added that Erjhon is very talkative. At first, Erjhon is shy but when he feels comfortable, he became talkative and aggressive according to her mother.

     About in education; According to his sisters, Erjhon likes to write even if it is scribbling. Erjhon doesn’t know yet how to write an alphabet and numbers. Then, his other sisters told me that Erjhon doesn’t know how to read. But he likes to saw a picture in a book. Then her mother told me that she didn’t teach her son in reading and writing because she thinks that Erjhon is not willing to learn in reading and writing. She added also that Erjhon wants to play and play.

     According to the mother of the child that one time, Erjhon will buy a junk food. But the seller told that his coin is fake because it is not new. So until now, Erjhon believes that every coin that he has if it is not new is fake for him.

D.  D.   PSYCHOSOCIAL HISTORY

D.1 TIME LINE

March 21. 2009          May 2009              August 2010                2010                          2011

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            |                            |                                |                            |                                    |

Grandfather       His Grandmother          Saw shooting       Financial Crisis     Still Unrecovered from

   Was die        had an eye operation      their neighbor                                        Financial Crisis

     As explain by the parents, they said that March 21, 2009 is the very sad event. Because Rodrigo Agoy-Agoy is their grandfather was died in colon cancer. In that time, they are lock of money so that their grandfather was died. Then, In May 2009, Their Grandmother named Santas Agoy-Agoy had an eye operation because of the cataract.  Then, according to the mother, they saw their neighbor shooting another neighbor because of arguing in their lot. That time, they were scared and cried.  According of the mother of the child, in year 2010, they had a financial crisis until the year 2011 they still unrecovered from financial crisis. Then Maritess added, the mother of a child that their life was in a middle situation. Because, according to her, she said that they are not so down and so high in quality of life.

              Father:  Erwin Gaspay                                                Mother:  Maritess Gaspay

                                                                   BIRTH ORDER:

                                                    1^st Child- Wilmar A. Gaspay

                                                    2^nd Child- Tessa Marie A. Gaspay

                                                    3^rd Child- Christine Hannah A. Gaspay

                                                    4^th Child- Rae Dawn A. Gaspay

                                                    5^th Child- Kizzle A. Gaspay

                                                    6^th Child- Erwin A. Gaspay

                                                    7^th Child- Mae Andrea Joy A. Gaspay

                                                    8^th Child- Winna Marie A. Gaspay

                                                    9^th child- Erjhon A. Gaspay

D.2 GENOGRAM

     

      In the table 1,  It represents the three generational relationship of the Gaspay Family. The upper portion of the boxes, are the grandfathers and grandmothers of the child I observed in this case study. In the left side is the family where the mother of the child is belongs while the right side is the family where the father belongs. That is the middle portion. In the last portion are the siblings of the child I observed.  The types of family they had is consanguine or extended family. In their home they consist of husband, wife, siblings and grandparents.

         

     In the table 2, it is the represent of the relationship between the families. According to them, they had a good relationship but there is sometimes that they are not comfortable with each other. When I asked them one by one about their likes and dislikes in their family, Winna is the most likes in the family members but Christine is the most dislikes of the family. They dislike Christine because she is so lazy and very ill-tempered. They most like winna because winna is so sweet and kind. But they said they had a good relationship even there is a one who dislike because of that behavior. Because they are still eating their food together, talking to each other and so on.

D.3 SOCIOGRAM

      This is the represented of likes and dislikes of erjhon with his playmates. He dislikes Intoy, Ralph Lawrence and Ashley. Because according to him, they are always hurt him and so selfish in the things he wants to borrowed. But Aljaver was so kind for him.

D.4-D.6 PERSONALITY DYNAMICS

·         SELF MASTERY

He knows the name of each sibling. He knows that his grandfather was died. He also knows that they saw their neighbor got shot by a gun. He said that time he cried because of afraid. He also knows that he is naughty.

·         RELATIONSHIPS

He is close to his father than her mother. According to him, His father always had a gift for him like a piece of donuts. While his mother was always punish him because of being naughty. He close to his grandfather than his grandmother, because according to him, his grandfather was kind and he always gave him a banana. The reason why he doesn’t close to his grandmother, because of she doesn’t want Erjhon to sit in the swinging. He is avoiding closing to his eldest brother because he is afraid. Because, his eldest brother very angry with him when he is disturbing him in doing. So that he is afraid to draw close to his brother because he thinks that his eldest brother will be mad to him.

·         ACTIONS

He can sing, dance and tumbling. He know to count a numbers from 1-10. But he doesn’t know how to write his own name and an alphabet, how to read and how to sing a nursery rhyme.

 E.     THEORETICAL FRAMEWORK

                     Based on the present problem in the child case, the child showing being aggressive because of             lack of attention. In behavioral theory by Skinner, he used the term reinforcement to describe the immediate behavior that is likely to strengthen it. But in the case of Erjhon, we should use the Shaping method. Wherein is to help a child learn a new behavior by teaching it in small steps and systematically reinforcing the attainment of each step. Extinction is used to eliminate a behavior that had previously been reinforced by taking away all reinforcement. 

                     The other problem for the child case, that he believing the one thing that is not to be trusted. The stage of development by Erikson the “Trust vs. Mistrust” is the stage wherein the child should be in the process of the development of trust. In the case of Erjhon, he is easy to trusting to other people saying.     

F.      PROGNOSIS

My first impression of the problem is not a big deal for them. Because we all know that the child was so naughty. When I in their home, at first Erjhon was shy with me but as times goes by, he is shown his being a talkative and being a naughty child. Because when I’m talking with her mother, he gets my pen and then he wrote a scribbling to my paper. Then his mother discipline him by saying don’t disturb her. So in that case, it proves me that his siblings told to me a while ago was true. So as I observed to the problem, may be Erjhon is a kind of a child who is attention seeker. Because for me is the reason why he does such thing to feel to the person that “hello... I’m here.”  But there is one thing I observed to him when I was in their home. He is sweet because when I told to them that “goodbye! I will go home because it is night already. My parents called me to go home.” Then, he respond me that “Please, stay… and sleep with us.” I was smiled and say “sorry… but my parents called me to go home.” He three times saying that he wants me to be with them. But his mother talked to him and then he stop to say it again to me because he understood. Then he say to me “goodbye”. For me the cause of this problem, they not give praise to him and attention to him so that he does that such things.

  My impression about his education problem may be the reason why he doesn’t know how to read and write because of not teaching by his parents and also his siblings. Then I think that, he is also not ready to learn in education because he wants to play and play with his playmates. Then we all know that the child want his all day activities is to play. But I think in this age, the child must be learning how to read and write. When I asked his mother that does she try to teach his son in reading and writing, she said “I didn’t try at all, because she is busy to do household chores”. So may be the cause of the problem is in the parent that not taught his child in education. Because they are so busy in their own business. And they are not motivating their child in the education.

Interpersonal Therapy (Our Own personal Therapy)

INTERPERSONAL THERAPY


INTRODUCTION:

Man is a social being. He is born into a group, grows up in a group, socializes with a group, learns many things in a group and he will die in a group. For the last time, his own group will follow him to pay their last homage to him. This illustrates the sociability and gregariousness of man. As the song: “No man is an island; no man stands alone; each man is my brother; each man is my friend.” The desire to be with others gives rise to the belief that sociability is part of human condition. And in order for them to create stability, each member must build harmonious relationship with one another. The main ingredients to attain this through the concept of “love” which gives depth to human relationships. The kind of relationship that the humans build in their society is the primary concern of this therapy.


VIEW OF HUMAN NATURE:

Interpersonal therapist believed that all human beings are social creatures. They have this kind of mutual ties that made them connected and interrelated with one another. The kind of relationship that humans build in the society is what we called “interpersonal relationship”. It is a relationship that is normally viewed as a connection between two individuals, such as a romantic or intimate relationship, or parent-child relationships, with groups of people, such as the relation between a pastor and his congregation, an uncle and a family, or a mayor and a town. Finally, groups or even nations may have relations with each other; through this is a much broader domain than that covered under the topic of interpersonal relationships. Interpersonal relationships also can include friendships, such as relationships involving individuals providing relational care to marginalized person or even intimate relationships as in romantic partners. These relationships usually involve some level of interdependence. People in a relationship tend to influence each other, share their thoughts and feelings and engage in activities together. Therapist believed that because of interdependence, most things that change or impact one member of the relationship will have some level of impact on the other member.


@LOVE
Interpersonal therapist believed that the capacity for “Love” gives depth to human relationships, brings people closer to each other physically and emotionally, and makes people think expansively about themselves and the world. Therapist believed that love is the main ingredients on establishing harmonious relationship in the society. There are also different attributes of Love or much preferred to as EIGHT ATTRIBUTES OF LOVE:
1. Patient- showing self-control
2. Kind- Giving attention, appreciation and encouragement
3. Humble- being authentic without pretense and arrogance
4. Respectful- treating others as important people
5. Selfless- Meeting the needs of others
6. Forgiving- giving up resentment when wrong
7. Honest- being free from deception
8. Committed- sticking to your choices


@INTERPERSONAL LOVE
This is usually found in an interpersonal relationship such as family members, friends and couples. It comes from the broader term of interpersonal relationship. This is the feeling which cannot be bound as one’s interpersonal love may vary from person to person and relation to relation.

Interpersonal love is the love between human beings. It is the simple yet complex relation between two human beings. It can be the love between two human members, your friends, relatives and so on.
Some elements that are often present in interpersonal love are the following:

1. Affection

Interpersonal love has one of the most important feelings which are the affection. It may be your loved one. Your father, or a friend with whom you share your feelings, you’re sweet and sour moments. This is because you are in love with that person and care for that person.

2. Attachment

You tend to be attached to the person whom you love. Attachment is very evident in such relations. It can be your mother, brother or any for of relative, with whom your love relation grows, creating a strong bonding.

3. Responsibility

You tend to become more responsible towards the needs of the person you love. You are more alert and trying your levels best to give a great time for your loved one.

4. Passion
This is related to the physical demands of a person which is shared with a more intimated relationship such as a lover or a life partner. It is more on sexual desire to help.

5. Service
This is referring to our desire to help.

6. Commitment

Interpersonal love also gives rise to commitment. You feel responsible to maintain your love relation. You feel so close to the person that you yourself would want to maintain the relation. It is more on a desire to maintain love.


“Inspite all odds interpersonal love is the
most beautiful aspect which human beings
are blessed with to survive as social animals
anywhere on plant earth.”

@HAPPINESS

Therapist believed that if an individual has a healthy interpersonal relationship with his/her society, it may result to a feeling of “happiness”. Since, human beings are social animal and cannot stay sane by leading a lonely life, a person may find ways on how to be happy. And because human beings are surrounded by their near dear ones, such as their family, friends and sweethearts whom they share splendid relation, such love that they show to them makes them happy as they feel wanted and important. These relationships which you are surrounded is gives you the opportunity to interact and have a social life of your own.


DEVELOPMENT OF MALADAPTIVE BEHAVIOR:


Interpersonal therapist believed that since people are sociable in nature, they need approval and affection from other people. They need to feel belong and well-accepted by the society. So, if the person feel isolated and separated from other people, the tendency is they will develop a maladaptive behavior. For instance, If a child do not receive approval and affection from his/her family, friends, and other people in his surroundings; The more possibility that this child will develop lower self-esteem and depression as to compare with those children that receive a feeling of belongingness. The child will feel a sense of helplessness and uselessness.

Therapist also believed that since human beings are social creatures. They need to love and be loved is the main ingredient in establishing harmonious relationship with others that have an attachment with other people whom they loved. If the person failed to attain these, eventually they may feel so much anxiety. In terms Anxiety that an individual is now feeling insecurity that will bring him so much fear. If this circumstances becomes severe tendency of an individual is to develop the term neurosis. Neurosis is a psychic disturbance brought by fears and defense against fears and attempts to find compromise solutions for conflicting interpersonal relationship. For example, there is a person who loved someone but do not receive the same thing from that someone. There is a tendency that this person will feel so much anxiety and sense of insecurity to himself/herself. Insecurity in terms that he/she would think that he/she is alone, that he/she would spend his/her life alone.

Therapist also believed that suicides is not merely caused by a feeling of inferiority but also caused by feeling of an individual to be not loved by his society especially those that are part of his life whom he created splendid relation such as friends, family and sweethearts. They also used the term “alienation” as a result from a sense of less and disconnectedness of an individual in a group of people or in the society which is also one of the reasons of an individual to develop maladaptive behavior.


FUNCTION OF THE THERAPIST:


Individuals in the presence of others become aroused or motivated to perform some kinds of physical and social skills at higher levels of excellence then they would if they were alone. For instance, athletes perform what is expected as “team work” when they play and are motivated further to realize their team’s objectives in the presence of the “cheerers”. They are seen as always exerting more efforts and performing better before the crowd in the height of the competition. Usually, students who take the examination in class do better than those taking the examination alone. A situation in which an individual is simulated by the presence of others is called “social facilitation”. Since it is said that group influences attitudes and behaviors of an individual. Therefore the function of the therapist is to help the clients create good relationships towards others. They will help the clients on how they can express gratitude and share appreciation for others which is the primary means for creating a positive relationship.

The Therapists also help the clients in developing their concept of love which is said to be the one that gives depth to human relationships, brings people closer to each other whether physically or emotionally and makes people think expansively about themselves and the world.

Clients are also guided to be aware on their acts and behaviors towards the people they loved. Therapist helps them to be responsible on how they can establish a long-term relationship towards others.


GOALS OF THE THERAPY:


The interpersonal therapy is primarily concern with the kind of relationship human created in the society; therefore the goals of the therapy will include the development of social and interpersonal skills of the clients. Expressing gratitude and sharing appreciation for others which is the primary means in creating a positive relationship towards others. It aims to increase positive emotions, self-esteem, trust, liking, stability and closeness of the individual towards others. Even though interpersonal relationship are complex with so many conflicting emotions involved in it. The therapy is aimed to make the clients realize the importance of stability and interdependency of humans from one another. Also to make them realize that is order for them to be happy, they need to move towards people than moving against them. To be bare in their mind that we are social creatures and we have this invisible ties that made us connected and related from each other wherein we are benefited from them and vice versa.


METHODS AND TECHNIQUES:


Interpersonal therapist formulated the following methods and techniques in enhancing the interpersonal skills of each person:

@MINDING RELATIONSHIPS

The mindfulness theory of relationships shows how closeness in relationships may be enhanced. Minding is the reciprocal knowing process involving the nonstop, five components of “minding” include:

1. Knowing and being known: seeking to understand others.
2. Making relationship-enhancing attributions per behaviors: giving the
benefit of the doubt.
3. Accepting and respecting: empathy and social skills
4. Maintaining reciprocity: active participation in relationship
enhancement.
5. Continuity in minding: persisting in mindfulness.

Therapist believed that through minding relationship, a person is now being responsible on how he/she would act in order to have a long-term relationship with other people especially those whom he/she spend splendid relation.

@CULTURE OF TRUST

Another method wherein the clients are guided to have a sense of trust toward other people is in order to create a good communication with others; clients must learn how to trust others. There are some suggestions in developing a sense of trust:

*Start each conversation with a smile so that the clients will feel
comfortable.
*Learn to respect their opinions and ideas.
*Learn to appreciate them and accept what and who they really are.
*Be honest

@CULTURE OF APPRECIATION

Interpersonal interactions associated with negative relationships include criticism, contempt defensiveness, and stonewalling. Overtime, therapy aims to turn these interpersonal strategies into more positive ones which include complaint, appreciation, acceptance of responsibility and self-soothing. Similarly the clients in interpersonal relationships can incorporate positive components into difficult subjects in order to avoid emotional disconnection.


@CAPITALIZING POSITIVE EVENTS

People can capitalize on positive events in an interpersonal context to work toward enhancing interpersonal relationships. People often run to others to share their good news (termed as CAPITALIZATION). Both the act of telling others about good events and the response of the person with whom the event was shared have personal and interpersonal consequences, including increased positive emotions, subjective well-being and self-esteem relationship benefits including intimacy, commitment, trust liking, closeness, and stability. Therapist believed that the act of communicating positive events was associated with increased positive effect and well-being. They believed that relationships in which partners responded to “good new” communication enthusiastically were associated with his/her relationship well-being.

@TELL ME WHO I AM?

It is a method wherein clients are set in group to different people. All of them are allowed to interact with one another. Then each individual are asked to paste a piece of paper on their backs. Each individual is allowed to describe each person that they have interacted. Then write it on the papers in their backs. After that they will read what is written on their backs. Of course, there is a possibility that these descriptions maybe negative or positive. In that why they come to realize and to know what are the behaviors they possessed with especially when interacting with others. The clients will come to realize those negative behaviors that they have and they will have the chance to change those to pursue those positive and change those that are negative. In that why, they will become more aware and responsive on their acts towards others.


@BALANCING THE WHEEL OF LIFE (KEY TO HAPPINESS)

GOD


Family Friends
Love - HAPPINESS
Community Sweethearts/
Partner



The clients oriented on how he can balance his interpersonal relationship through balancing their wheel of life which they believed as the key to happiness. It is shows that the center of the wheel is the “LOVE” which is the therapist believed that it is the main ingredient in creating a good relationship among others. They believed that if you love your family, friends, sweethearts and community this will lead you to true happiness. As the therapy said; that to be love and be loved is the essence of true happiness. But the outer circle is our GOD, in which the inner circle is being covered. What we are doing and making in the inner circle to find true happiness is dedicated to our Almighty God.


APPLICATION:

The interpersonal therapy is primarily concern with the kind of relationship human created in the society. Therefore the goals of the therapy will include the development of social and interpersonal skills of the clients.

In the case of Rolie who experienced “stigma” or negative impressions toward his playmates and peers. He was live in a family whose parents are very busy in their works. Although he was the only child, his parents find hard time to pay a lot of attention from him. That’s why he doesn’t feel so much appreciation and love from his parents. This is one of the reasons why he become loner and do not want to deal with other children. He usually plays alone and become shy.

Since the goal of the therapists is to develop the interpersonal skills of the client, they conducted an activity wherein the client is set in a group with different behaviors and attitudes. All of them is allowed to interact with one another within few hours. In case of Rolie, they use play activities because through play they can express their feelings and ideas. After that activity, the therapist will attach paper at the back of each child if those descriptions are exactly described who they really are. The clients are asked to classify which of these descriptions are positive and negative. The therapist will ask the client about what they feel when they learned that these are the impressions of others from them. The therapist will give time to reminisce and realize what would be the possible actions after they learned their behavior especially the negative ones. In that way, the therapist is now helping the client to become a more sociable person and increase its self-esteem and interpersonal skills.


Interpersonal therapy is influenced by the ff:

*Sociologist
- Karl Marx
- Albert Bandura

*Psychologist
- Erich Fromm
- Karen Horney
- Alfred Adler
- Vadim Kotelnikov



Prepared by:

Mary rose (Irrg.)
Arlene (Irrg.)
Jeremie flores
Elizabeth Escanilla
April rose Cagampang
Sarah (Irrg.)
BEED 3B

Joselle Epino Questions and here is my answers

1.) What do you think is the reason, Why expertise, attitudes and as well as specific concepts are important categories for the family therapy practice?

Expertise, attitudes and as well as specific concepts are important categories for the family therapy because, it serves as a guide for our family when the problems came out. Because all that family therapy cases in the expertise, attitudes and specific concepts help to distinguish the needs for the problems to solve out. Its not only to solve the problems but also you can learned for that problems...

2.) What is the importance of knowledge about ethical issue in a study of family therapy?

The importance of knowledge about ethical issue in a study of Family Therapy, it is effective clinical decisions promote the welfare and interests of the family and its individual
members. However, the needs of the family and its individual members are often in conflict. Resolving this conflict is an ethical as well as a therapeutic dilemma.


3.) Is there come in a point that your family member suddenly change in terms of interaction within your family? How?

Sometimes it suddenly change in terms of interaction within my family by when there is a misunderstanding about a topics to be talked about. The topic that always have a misunderstanding if it is involved the money.

4.) What is the difference between Naturalistic change and Therapeutic change?

The difference between the Naturalistic change and Therapeutic change is the focus. Because the Naturalistic Change is focus to the development, narratives and information flow within the family in the relationships and also they listening and validating client change whenever and for whatever reason it occurs during the treatment process. While the Therapeutic change is focus on the solely on how change occurs in a family therapy session and also on the emotional nature of out-of-session interactions and the client's reactions to them. It comes about the intervenes actively and directivity in particular ways in a family system.

Ma. Angela Bembenuto's Questions and here is my Answers

1.) What is the biggest problem that your family encountered and how your family overcome with that problem?

The biggest problem that our family encountered is when my father haven't work. Because my dad got a check-up, they discovered that my dad has a high cholesterol in his heart. It may possibly had a heart attack. They discovered also that my dad had a little stone in his kidney that need to had an operation. The doctor said that my dad needs a month to have a rest. So my dad tell it to his boss but his boss didn't understand the situation of my dad. They talked about it... But his boss is not listened to him. So that my father decided to resigned in that job.
In that time, All our mind was focus to the great big help of our God. We all trust that God saw all our doing and He will help us. It's very happy to know that in 3 months of none job, we all survived. This month of January, my father boss called him and said to go back to his work. So that was a good news for us. We so thankful in God! For His great hand for helping us in that kind of situation.

2.) Are you ready to have a family in the near future? And we as a future parents also, what you were going to do to build a good relationship within your children, are you going to establish also a rules and regulations around your family?

For me, May be... I'm not ready to have a family in the near future. Because my parents wants me to be with them and be single. But if i was a future parent, I want for my family is to had a good relationships with my children. Because it is my responsibility to take care of them and to give them a good path for their near future by having a faith in God. I will spent my time on them to have a conversation, If there is a money and longer time... we will get a plan to have a trip or vacation to had a bonding with my children. I will establish also a rules and regulations for them to be followed. Because it is for their own sake. For them in growing up, they will be a better human that can deal with other people with respect.

Jessica Flores Questions and Here is my Answers

1.) How are you going to maintain good interaction within your family?

I will give a time for my family to had communication. Even if it's hard to me when i'm busy to study my lessons. It's really important to had a communication, especially if there is a problems came out. To maintain that good interaction for my family... I will do my best to had a time to have a bonding with them. Helping them in their works... Especially in my mother in household chores. As a sister of our family, It is my responsibility to help my mother in household chores.

If there's a time, You and your family must had a plan to go shopping and go for walks with your family. Take long drives to a distant restaurant or to a resort with your spouse. And when you drive, leave the radio off. A car with no music playing is one of the greatest mobile communication chambers imaginable. You will be amazed at the wonderful conversations you can have in a quiet car. Plan vacations in advance. Schedule them completely. Pay for them in full. Make the payments nonrefundable if possible. Then discipline yourself to take the time away, no matter what happens. The times you spend away and on vacation with your loved ones will include the happiest and most important memories of your lives together. Your job is to create as many opportunities for these happy experiences to take place, and for these memories to develop, as you possibly can.

Remember that to do more of one thing, you must do less of another. To spend more time with your loved ones, you must do less of something else.

2.) Is it good to have a pattern of leadership and power manifest in the family? Why?

For me, It is not good to have a pattern of leadership and power manifest. Because it is unfair for the other member of the family. It result of favoritism... Its better to have an equal and give them all the opportunity to do all things. For example, they all together do the household chores to made work easily and fast. It is important to have a equal and unite in your doing. But i don't know if it is good. Maybe it is good or not. Because there is different results in having that pattern of leadership and power manifest; and none.

3.) You as a future educator, how are you going to develop self-esteem of our students?

As a future educator, I will going to develop self-esteem of our students by telling to them that Helpful, Inspiring, Positive and Motivating your self is a big help to develop their self-esteem. Because Self-esteem is all about how much we feel valued, loved, accepted, and thought well of by others — and how much we value, love, and accept ourselves. People with healthy self-esteem are able to feel good about themselves, appreciate their own worth, and take pride in their abilities, skills, and accomplishments. People with low self-esteem may feel as if no one will like them or accept them or that they can't do well in anything.

We all experience problems with self-esteem at certain times in our lives — especially during our teens when we're figuring out who we are and where we fit in the world. The good news is that, because everyone's self-image changes over time, self-esteem is not fixed for life. So if you feel that your self-esteem isn't all it could be, you can improve it.

Before a person can overcome self-esteem problems and build healthy self-esteem, it helps to know what might cause those problems in the first place. Two things in particular — how others see or treat us and how we see ourselves — can have a big impact on our self-esteem. Parents, teachers, and other authority figures influence the ideas we develop about ourselves — particularly when we are little kids.

As a future educator, it is good to spend more time criticizing than praising a child, it can be harder for a kid to develop good self-esteem. Because teens are still forming their own values and beliefs, it's easy to build self-image around what a parent, coach, or other person says.